The Naked Marriage with Dave & Ashley Willis

Hey, welcome back! We're still riding the waves of our 14 days of sex journey on the Naked Marriage Podcast. In this episode, Ashley and I get personal, diving into the male orgasm and everything related. From discussing the impact of a vasectomy on ejaculation to our approach to talking openly with our kids about sex, we cover it all. Join us as we cover the nuances of pleasure points and even tackle the headache mystery during orgasm. Communication is key, and we're here to normalize these experiences. Stick around for insights on sexual variety and the intriguing refractory period for men. It's an episode filled with candid conversation and insights into our own journey.
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00:00 Introduction and Year Outlook
00:31 Male Orgasm
01:27 Ejaculation and Vasectomy
02:24 Openness with Children
03:18 Female Ejaculation
04:14 Quantity of Ejaculate
04:40 Headaches during Orgasm
05:29 Communication and Normalcy
06:56 Pleasure Points for Men
08:19 Variety and Oral Sex
09:48 Multiple Orgasms for Women
10:18 Refractory Period
11:18 Post-Sex Hygiene
12:26 Conclusion
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Welcome back; it's our favorite time of the week; it's HUMP DAY Q&A TIME! Today's question: How do I initiate conversations with my spouse without coming across as bossy or controlling
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Hey, welcome back to the Naked Marriage Podcast! Today, we are talking about what culture deems as a very hard goal... but we think with a little communication it is super achievable -- the female orgasm. We're tackling common questions, emphasizing patience and selflessness for husbands, and sharing practical tips. Our challenge for you: prioritize your wife's pleasure for deeper intimacy. Ready to dive!

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Takeaways

The female orgasm is characterized by a clenching of the muscles and a feeling of pleasure.

The female orgasm often takes longer to achieve than the male orgasm.

Husbands should be patient and prioritize their wives' pleasure, focusing on foreplay and taking the time to understand their preferences.

Communication and kindness are key in creating a fulfilling sexual relationship.

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Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Series Overview
00:32 Understanding the Female 
Orgasm03:21 The Female Orgasm Takes Longer
04:19 Patience and Selflessness in Pleasuring the Wife
05:17 Exploring Different Stimulation Techniques
06:43 The Importance of Time and Kindness
08:10 Prioritizing the Wife's Pleasure
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Hey, welcome back to the Naked Marriage Podcast – we're almost at the end of our 14 Days Of Sex Challenge! Today, we're diving into a personal conversation about what's off-limits in the bedroom for Christian married couples. No frills, just real talk. We're emphasizing the importance of keeping it between the two of you – no bringing other people into the bedroom, no polyamory or open marriages. We also tackle using non-human objects for pleasure and the potential issues that can arise. Vibrators, masturbation, slapping, choking – we're covering it all. Our encouragement? Have those open discussions and seek counseling if you need it. Join us for this honest chat about boundaries in the bedroom as we navigate this journey together
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Takeaways

Christian married couples should not bring other people into the bedroom.

Using non-human objects for sexual pleasure should be carefully considered.

Open communication and seeking counseling can help navigate boundaries in the bedroom.

Respecting and prioritizing the emotional and physical well-being of both partners is crucial.

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Chapters
00:00 Introduction and XO Marriage Announcement
01:24 What's Off Limits in the Bedroom
03:46 Not Going Outside of Marriage Covenant
06:29 Sexual Sin in the Bible
07:48 Using Non-Human Objects for Sex
08:17 Vibrators and Masturbation
09:10 Slapping and Choking
10:57 Conclusion and Open Discussion
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Hey, welcome back to the Naked Marriage Podcast – we're right in the thick of our 14 Days Of Sex Challenge! This episode is a bit close to the heart. Today, we're diving into the sometimes sensitive issue of painful sex, and we want to approach it with the care it deserves. Opening up about the importance of communication, we share some insights on conditions like vaginismus and how those pelvic floor muscles can play a role in causing discomfort. But it's not just physical – we touch on the emotional impact too, stressing the need for understanding and support between partners. We even explore unexpected factors like allergies to condoms and lubricants. As we wrap up, think of this as a gentle reminder to seek solutions and support. And remember, finding intimacy in different ways is a journey worth taking. Join us for this intimate conversation, where openness paves the way to a healthier and more fulfilling sex life.
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Takeaways

Painful sex is a common issue that many couples experience but often struggle with in isolation.

Vaginismus, a condition involving tight pelvic floor muscles, is a common cause of pain during sex and can be addressed through physical therapy.

Allergies to condoms, lubricants, or spermicides can also cause discomfort during sex, and exploring alternative options may help.

Menopause can lead to dryness and pain during sex, and hormone replacement therapy may be a solution.

Believing and supporting your spouse when they experience pain is crucial, and seeking medical help and therapy can provide solutions.

If one solution doesn't work, keep seeking alternatives and don't give up on finding ways to enjoy sex.

During times of pain or discomfort, couples can focus on growing closer in other ways and finding intimacy outside of intercourse.

Men can also experience pain during sex, and there are solutions available for them as well.

Open communication, seeking help, and supporting each other are key to addressing and overcoming painful sex in a marriage.



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00:00 Introduction: Painful Sex
01:00 Vaginismus and Pelvic Floor Issues
02:22 Psychological Impact of Painful Sex
03:17 Allergies to Condoms and Lubricants
05:12 Painful Sex during Menopause
06:10 Believing and Supporting Your Spouse
07:36 Seeking Solutions and Finding Help
09:25 Growing Closer in Other Ways
09:54 Men's Experience of Painful Sex
10:23 Conclusion and Call to Action
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Welcome back to the Naked Marriage Podcast. We're in the middle of our 14 Days Of Sex Challenge! Today, we are having a real talk about something a lot of couples go through: premature ejaculation and how it affects our sex lives. We're keeping it simple – it's all about open communication with your spouse and finding solutions together. We're sharing some practical tips to make things last a bit longer, like using desensitizing gels or condoms. It's about being patient, understanding each other, and making sure both partners are satisfied. And hey, before we wrap up, we've got a light-hearted shout-out for the upcoming XO Marriage conferences. Join us for a down-to-earth chat about navigating the ups and downs of our sex lives."
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Takeaways

Open and honest conversation with your spouse is crucial for addressing and finding solutions to sexual issues.

Premature ejaculation can lead to frustration for both partners, but there are practical ways to prolong the sexual experience.

Reducing premature ejaculation can be achieved through stimulation and focusing on mutual satisfaction.

Shame should not be associated with premature ejaculation, and seeking solutions through medical advice is encouraged.

Patience and understanding are key in supporting a spouse dealing with premature ejaculation.


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00:00 Introduction and Importance of Conversation with Spouse
00:29 Premature Ejaculation and Frustration
01:24 Practical Challenges and Solutions03:21Reducing Premature Ejaculation through Stimulation
03:47 Shame and Solutions
04:44 Patience and Mutual Satisfaction
05:40 Humor and Conclusion
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Welcome back to the Naked Marriage Podcast – we're in our 14 Days Of Sex Challenge! Today, We're pulling back the curtains on the various causes, from aging to medical issues and mental health, that lead to Sex Drive Changes. It's not just a talk; it's a personal journey as we share our own experiences and the solutions we've discovered. Open communication is key, and sometimes seeking professional help is a game-changer. As we wrap up, consider our book, 'The Counterfeit Climax,' a resource for further exploration. Join us for a candid conversation where our personal stories shine a light on navigating the twists and turns of changing sex drives in marriage.
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Takeaways

Sex drive changes can be caused by various factors, including aging, medical issues, and mental health.

Seeking specialized doctors and exploring alternative solutions can help address sex drive changes.

Open communication and seeking professional help are crucial in navigating changes in sex drive.

The book 'The Counterfeit Climax' is recommended as a resource for further exploration.

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00:00 Introduction and Preview
00:51 Causes of Sex Drive Changes
01:48 Personal Experience with Sex Drive Changes
03:12 Seeking Solutions for Sex Drive Changes
04:09 Importance of Specialized Doctors
05:03 Exploring Alternative Solutions
06:30 Comprehensive Testing and Research
08:48 Hormone Replacement Therapy
09:41 Navigating Changes in Sex Drive
10:39 Communication and Seeking Help
13:04 Conclusion and Resource Recommendation
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Hey there, welcome back to the Naked Marriage Podcast, where we're right in the midst of our 14 Days Of Sex Challenge! It's Dave and Ashley here, and today we're diving into a topic that's personal and, let's face it, maybe a bit spicy – fetishes and role-playing in Christian marriages. We break it down, defining fetishes as those specific non-sexual things that can light a fire, and role-playing as, well, acting out those scenarios that get the imagination going. But here's the real talk – we're shedding light on the dangers of pornography and its influence on these aspects of intimacy. We also explore the idea that some fantasies may have roots in our adolescence. Through it all, we're hitting home the importance of mutual consent, safety, and honoring God in our sexual activities. As we wrap up, we want to remind you that communication is key, and addressing any restrictions or guilt is crucial for a healthy, fulfilling sexual relationship. Join us for a candid conversation where nothing's off-limits!
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Takeaways

Fetishes are specific non-sexual things that turn someone on sexually, while role-playing involves acting out specific scenarios.

Pornography can fuel dangerous fetishes and role-playing scenarios, and it is important to avoid using porn as an instructional manual for sex.

Some fetishes and role-playing scenarios may stem from fantasies developed during adolescence.

Mutual consent, safety, and honoring God are essential in exploring fetishes and engaging in role-playing.

Communication and addressing restrictions or guilt are crucial in maintaining a healthy sexual relationship.

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00:00 Introduction and Overview
01:00 Definition of Fetishes and Role-playing
02:28 Dangers of Pornography
03:23 Fantasies and Role-playing from Adolescence
05:16 Different Types of Fetishes and Role-playing
06:42 Exploring BDSM
07:39 The Importance of Mutual Consent and Safety
09:03 Using Sex as a Gift from God
10:31 Addressing Restrictions and Guilt
11:24 Conclusion and Encouragement
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Welcome back to the Naked Marriage Podcast, where we're knee-deep in our 14 Days Of Sex Challenge! Today, we're delving into a topic that's as personal as it gets – the importance of discussing sexual history in a marriage. We're all about full disclosure, baring it all, and having those tough, but crucial, conversations about our pasts. From the number of partners to mindsets, expectations, and insecurities, nothing's off the table. We get real about struggles with pornography and its impact on how sex is viewed. Join us for a raw and honest conversation that hits close to home.
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Takeaways

Open and honest communication about sexual history is crucial in a marriage.

Sexual history includes not only past partners but also mindsets, expectations, and insecurities.

Childhood sexual experiences can have long-term effects and should be addressed with compassion and understanding.

Seeking counseling and support can help in processing and healing from past sexual trauma.

Apologizing and rebuilding trust is important when revealing past actions in a marriage.


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00:00 Introduction and Importance of Discussing Sexual History
01:00 Understanding Sexual History
02:25 Personal Sexual History
04:18 Embarrassment and Regret in Sharing Sexual History
05:46 Childhood Sexual Experiences
07:11 Trauma and Loss
09:06 Processing Trauma with a Counselor
10:33 Long-Term Effects of Trauma
13:28 Dealing with Regret and Guilt
16:17 Supporting Spouses with Sexual Trauma
17:45 Revealing Past Actions in Marriage
21:03 Moving Forward and Seeking Healing
22:29 Apologizing and Rebuilding Trust
23:28 Conclusion and Encouragement
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Hey, it's Dave and Ashley here; welcome back to The Naked Marriage Podcast. We are in our 14 Days Of Sex Challenging, and we are excited about today's topic. In today's Naked Marriage Podcast episode, we're diving into a topic close to our hearts: birth control. We get real about the misconceptions, emphasizing the significance of open conversations when it comes to family planning. Exploring various methods and their potential side effects, we highlight the importance of listening to our bodies and seeking guidance, even from the Holy Spirit, in these decisions. Wrapping up, we remind you how crucial communication is in every facet of marriage. Join us for a candid, personal chat about a topic that impacts us all.
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The Counterfeit Climax Book: https://thecounterfeitclimax.com/
For all links mentioned in the episode & more XO content, visit https://linktr.ee/nakedmarriage
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Takeaways

Open and honest communication is essential when discussing birth control and family planning.

There are various types of birth control methods available, each with its own potential side effects.

Couples should consider their own bodies, the guidance of the Holy Spirit, and the opinions of both partners when making decisions about birth control.

Communication is key in all aspects of marriage, including discussions about sex and family planning.

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00:00 Introduction and Series Overview
01:03 Misconceptions about Birth Control
03:29 Different Types of Birth Control
08:02 Considering Family Planning and God's Will
10:17 Listening to Your Body and Spouse
11:15 Conclusion and Importance of Communication
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