Ep. 35 — High-Conflict Personalities: The Internal Logic of Chaos

Understanding and Managing High Conflict Personalities

In this episode of The Unstressed Exec Podcast, Dr. George Vergolias discusses high conflict personalities, outlining their characteristics, the internal logic behind their chaos, and how to effectively manage them.

He explains different personality types such as narcissistic, borderline, paranoid, and chronic victims, their behavioral patterns, and why traditional tactics like logic and calm often fail. Dr. Vergolias also provides practical strategies for containing rather than resolving conflicts, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and documenting interactions.

The episode concludes with reflections and a call to action, encouraging listeners to explore further resources like Dr. Vergolias' workbook, 'The Conflict Whisper: from Conflict to Clarity.'

00:00 Introduction to The Unstressed Exec

01:23 Understanding High Conflict Personalities

07:48 The Narcissistic High Conflict Personality

09:25 The Borderline High Conflict Personality

11:54 The Paranoid High Conflict Personality

13:18 The Victim Mentality High Conflict Personality

19:59 Managing High Conflict Personalities

26:16 Conclusion and Call to Action

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Meet Dr. George Vergolias — a clinical and forensic corporate psychologist turned executive coach with 20+ years at the intersection of leadership, mental resilience, and high performance. George has advised Fortune 500 companies, guided C-suite leaders through crisis, and coached high-achievers to reclaim clarity, calm, and purpose without losing their edge.

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