Why We Keep Choosing What Hurts (Even When We Know Better) EP 55

You know those moments when you catch yourself doing the exact thing you swore you wouldn’t do again — and you know better — but you still do it?

In this episode, I share the surprisingly relatable story of my too-hot showers (yes, really) and how they revealed one a big truth about self-sabotage, stress, and the nervous system.

We’ll unpack why smart, self-aware women keep choosing what hurts — even when the logic is there, the desire to change is there, and the evidence is clear.

You’ll learn:

What’s really driving those “I know better but I still do it” momentsWhy your nervous system craves familiarity more than it craves feeling goodHow fight/flight/freeze responses hijack your choicesThe identity layer that keeps you looping in old patternsAnd how to start repatterning your system so that peace actually feels safe

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I keep doing this?” — this episode will make everything click.

🎧 Listen, reflect, and start choosing what supports you instead of what burns.

If you’re ready to start your journey, here’s where you can begin:

Steady: ($27) — 7 days of nervous system practices to help you get quick wins and feel grounded fast. Beyond The Label ($44) A self-paced mini course to help you explore your relationship with alcohol through the lens of the nervous system — and decide what’s right for your body, your peace, and your life — no labels required. The Personal Power Map ($75)— a personalized breakdown of your stress patterns, hidden strengths, and next power move, complete with a video report from me so you can feel my coaching style and energy. Freedom from Alcohol — Quit Drinking for Good … Without White-Knuckling, Relapse, or Labels And if you’re craving high-touch, transformational support, I also offer 1:1 mentorship.

You don’t need more random information from instagram—you need tools, practices, and perspective that actually help you feel different.

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