What Self-Leadership Really Looks Like When You’re Triggered and Exhausted EP49

There are moments when all the tools, the breathwork, the awareness — they just don’t seem to be enough.
 You’re tired. Reactive. Snapping at people you love. Projecting .
 And underneath the surface, you can feel something deeper trying to get your attention.

In this episode, I share a real story about when I hit that point — too depleted to show up, too aware to numb out.
It became a masterclass in what self-leadership actually looks like when you’re in it: messy, emotional, and human.

You’ll hear me unpack:

How emotional reactivity and exhaustion are signals, not failuresWhat happens in the nervous system when you’ve been holding too much for too longHow I traced a trigger back to an old belief: “I’m not worth the effort”The exact steps I took to move from shutdown into self-compassion and repairWhy self-leadership isn’t about control or calm — it’s about staying present with what’s real

If you’ve ever found yourself overwhelmed, reactive, or on the edge of burnout, this episode will remind you:
 you don’t have to fix yourself — you just have to stay with yourself.

Because true self-leadership isn’t about being unshakeable… it’s about learning to lead yourself gently when you are.

If you’re ready to start your journey, here’s where you can begin:

Steady: ($27) — 7 days of nervous system practices to help you get quick wins and feel grounded fast. Beyond The Label ($44) A self-paced mini course to help you explore your relationship with alcohol through the lens of the nervous system — and decide what’s right for your body, your peace, and your life — no labels required. The Personal Power Map ($75)— a personalized breakdown of your stress patterns, hidden strengths, and next power move, complete with a video report from me so you can feel my coaching style and energy. Freedom from Alcohol — Quit Drinking for Good … Without White-Knuckling, Relapse, or Labels And if you’re craving high-touch, transformational support, I also offer 1:1 mentorship.

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