Repeating Assignments: The Real Reason You Keep Fighting (Hint: It’s Not Them) EP 47

Do you ever feel like you’re having the same fight with your partner on repeat? The same arguments about unspoken expectations, the same resentment building when your needs aren’t met?

Here’s the truth: it’s not really about them. These fights are repeating assignments—patterns designed to show you where you’ve been outsourcing your needs and validation instead of meeting them within yourself.

In this episode, I break down:
 ✨ What repeating assignments are and why they happen
 ✨ How unspoken expectations fuel unnecessary conflict in relationships
 ✨ Why unmet needs often come from old childhood imprints—and how they can be re-written
 ✨ How longer breathwork journeys help release the emotional charge that keeps you stuck in the cycle

I share a personal story about being upset that my partner wasnt listening to this podcast, and how I realized it wasn’t his job to validate my work. That awareness—and the healing power of breathwork—helped me reclaim my needs instead of projecting them onto my relationship.

If you’re tired of fighting the same battles in your relationship, this episode will help you find clarity, break the cycle, and finally stop outsourcing your needs.

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