Healing the Father Wound: Masculine Templates, Breathwork, and the Legacy of My Stepdad EP 56

This episode is a love letter, and a reckoning, with the man who meant the world to me.

As the six-year anniversary of my stepdad’s passing approaches, I find myself reflecting on who he knew me as (a stressed, drinking woman working in construction) versus who I’ve become today, sober, grounded, breath-led, and doing work I never could’ve imagined back then.

In this episode, I share:

What I wonder he’d think of my sobriety and the life I’ve builtHow grief resurfaces in unexpected ways, especially when you think, “He’d be perfect for this… oh right, he’s gone”The complicated family dynamics that kept me from calling him “Dad,” even though he earned it in every senseThe masculine templates he gave me, and how I’ve repaired and expanded them through somatic and energetic workThe regret I still hold about how I treated him when I was youngHow I still feel him in my breathwork journeys, in reiki sessions, and even physically, in the literal concrete of the home we builtHow watching him die cracked me open, softened me, and ultimately became part of the catalyst for leaving alcohol behind (listen to the episode here)What grief taught me about emotional capacity and why feeling it is the only way through

This episode is for anyone navigating grief, father wounds, sobriety, identity shifts, or the messy realities of blended families.

It's for anyone who’s ever lost someone who shaped them and had to learn how to carry the relationship forward in new ways.

And it’s for Tom, a quiet king among men, whose legacy lives in my character, in my choices, and in the woman I am today.

If you’re ready to start your journey, here’s where you can begin:

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