Are You Busy… or Are You Just Avoiding Yourself? Loneliness, stress, and learning to feel safe being alone without alcohol EP 48

Do you find yourself filling every hour of the day, always making plans, or reaching for a glass of wine just to avoid the silence? You’re not lazy, broken, or “bad at being alone”—you’re likely caught in a stress response.

In this episode, I share how I used to outsource all my needs through busyness, bars, and bottles of wine, because being alone felt unbearable. And I’ll show you what shifted once I learned the truth about my nervous system.

We’ll cover:

Why busyness can actually be a survival strategyThe link between chronic stress responses and avoiding alone timeHow alcohol sneaks in as an escape from silenceWhat changes when you create safety in your bodyTools to process loneliness, grief, and stress—without numbing out

If you’ve ever felt like stillness is suffocating, this episode will give you a reframe, a few tools, and a reminder: ✨ home is always within you.

If you’re ready to start your journey, here’s where you can begin:

Steady: ($27) — 7 days of nervous system practices to help you get quick wins and feel grounded fast. Beyond The Label ($44) A self-paced mini course to help you explore your relationship with alcohol through the lens of the nervous system — and decide what’s right for your body, your peace, and your life — no labels required. The Personal Power Map ($75)— a personalized breakdown of your stress patterns, hidden strengths, and next power move, complete with a video report from me so you can feel my coaching style and energy. Freedom from Alcohol — Quit Drinking for Good … Without White-Knuckling, Relapse, or Labels And if you’re craving high-touch, transformational support, I also offer 1:1 mentorship.

You don’t need more random information from instagram—you need tools, practices, and perspective that actually help you feel different.

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