142. Identity Debt: The Cost of Being Who You’re Not Anymore
08 August 2025

142. Identity Debt: The Cost of Being Who You’re Not Anymore

The Becoming You Show with Leah Roling

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You say you want more—but are you actually ready to receive it?


In this deeply personal and powerfully reflective episode, Leah shares a moment that changed everything—a simple, honest pause in the middle of a milestone that revealed a truth she hadn’t been ready to see. That moment became a mirror—showing just how long she’d been living inside an identity she had already outgrown.


This episode explores the hidden cost of clinging to old roles, outdated identities, and the illusion of “fine” when your soul is asking for more. Leah unpacks the concept of identity debt—the energetic toll we pay when we’re still being someone we’re no longer meant to be.


From the high-performing executive stuck in survival patterns… to the parent afraid to make space for their own dreams… to the leader asking the universe for more while quietly mismanaging what they already have—this episode will help you locate your own misalignment, not with shame, but with radical honesty.


Inside, you’ll discover:



    What identity debt is and how it quietly shapes your outcomes


    Why your desires might not be landing—and what that really reveals


    The energetic mismatch between your future vision and your current calibration


    Why creating space often feels like sacrifice (but is actually the threshold of sovereignty)


    Five common outdated identities people stay loyal to—and how to release them


    How to use The Aligned Audit to clear what no longer fits and prepare for what’s next



⚡️ The universe doesn’t respond to what you say you want. It responds to who you’re being.


And it’s time to become the version of you who can hold it all—with integrity, readiness, and peace.


 


Watch: https://youtu.be/N1YK2WBIoaI