R&D Spill The T, 3.0: Doing Dating Differently; with Mrs. Lisa Elefant, and Fellow #mamabears Raquel, Ruchie & Hannah
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About this episode
R&D + co-host and 3.0 guest Mrs. Lisa Elefant, founder of AAS; we are excited to be joined by fellow shadchanim and dating coaches, Raquel Betesh, Ruchie Cohn, and Hannah Kahana.
“Hishtadlus”/ “Doing Dating Differently” - we all love that word🫠
For singles (our take ) and what it also “looks like” on the shadchanim side
- For a shadchan-thinking of ideas, redting them, to push or not to push?
- Examples of hishtadlus- meeting shadchanim, events, making events, shabbos meals, programs, networking in a more natural setting, daven daven, and daven. If Amuka is where you feel it’s at then go, but if davening in your backyard gives you just as much menuchas hanefesh that’s your hishtadlus, burnout from “segulas”
- Quantity vs. Quality - regarding networking/meeting shadchanim- better for “more people” to know you or just the “right ones”…? Remember when Lisa told us a guy said “you're my only shadchan”
- Keeping things fresh with AAS Shidduch initiatives- #zoom, #nixthepics, “BMG” “be my guest”, wedding redting, ubermeets etc, SHABBATONS….
- recipes & resumes 🤍👩🏻🍳
- Trusting yourself- knowing when you need “help” or a push, using a dating coach, etc is that part of singles hishtadlus? = LISA + FELLOW SHADCHAN COACHES
-At what point do you like to meet your singles, before their dates (e.g. have a relationship before, so you're familiar with their “what’s normal” (coaches)
-In your opinion who benefits more from a coach, the girls or the guys- yes guys might be a little lax on cues but girls can sometimes be too much in their heads (coaches)
- Taking breaks- necessary but to what degree? To avoid feeling burnt out, the “older” a single gets, can they “afford to”..?
Tea lights: Efforts you feel a single can take to maximize their quality exposure
#spillthet Listen along- and as always your feedback is ALWAYS valued 🖤🤍🖤 #studio #hotopics #interesting #convos #deepthoughts we mean #business #glamlife #girlboss #hustle #ambition #dating #datingcoach #shidduchdating #realtalk Introducing the real reason to 🍻 to #2022 #podcast #spotify #ontheroad #collaboration
“Hishtadlus”/ “Doing Dating Differently” - we all love that word🫠
For singles (our take ) and what it also “looks like” on the shadchanim side
- For a shadchan-thinking of ideas, redting them, to push or not to push?
- Examples of hishtadlus- meeting shadchanim, events, making events, shabbos meals, programs, networking in a more natural setting, daven daven, and daven. If Amuka is where you feel it’s at then go, but if davening in your backyard gives you just as much menuchas hanefesh that’s your hishtadlus, burnout from “segulas”
- Quantity vs. Quality - regarding networking/meeting shadchanim- better for “more people” to know you or just the “right ones”…? Remember when Lisa told us a guy said “you're my only shadchan”
- Keeping things fresh with AAS Shidduch initiatives- #zoom, #nixthepics, “BMG” “be my guest”, wedding redting, ubermeets etc, SHABBATONS….
- recipes & resumes 🤍👩🏻🍳
- Trusting yourself- knowing when you need “help” or a push, using a dating coach, etc is that part of singles hishtadlus? = LISA + FELLOW SHADCHAN COACHES
-At what point do you like to meet your singles, before their dates (e.g. have a relationship before, so you're familiar with their “what’s normal” (coaches)
-In your opinion who benefits more from a coach, the girls or the guys- yes guys might be a little lax on cues but girls can sometimes be too much in their heads (coaches)
- Taking breaks- necessary but to what degree? To avoid feeling burnt out, the “older” a single gets, can they “afford to”..?
Tea lights: Efforts you feel a single can take to maximize their quality exposure
#spillthet Listen along- and as always your feedback is ALWAYS valued 🖤🤍🖤 #studio #hotopics #interesting #convos #deepthoughts we mean #business #glamlife #girlboss #hustle #ambition #dating #datingcoach #shidduchdating #realtalk Introducing the real reason to 🍻 to #2022 #podcast #spotify #ontheroad #collaboration