Episode 71 — What to Say in the DMs

If you’ve ever opened your DMs, started typing…

and then deleted everything because it sounded too salesy, too formal, or just plain weird—this episode is for you.

Maybe you’ve been there…

You know someone is watching your content.
They’re liking your posts.
They’re showing interest in small ways.

But when it’s time to actually reach out, you freeze.

You don’t want to sound pushy.
You don’t want to say the wrong thing.
So you either overthink it… or don’t send anything at all.

And just like that—the opportunity passes.

Today’s episode is here to make that easier.

We’re breaking down exactly what to say when you want to start a conversation in your DMs—without it feeling forced, scripted, or like a pitch.

Because the truth is…

Your first message doesn’t need to do nearly as much as you think it does.

It’s not about impressing them.
It’s not about selling.

It’s simply about starting.

Inside this episode, we talk about the real job of your opening message—and why keeping it simple is what actually gets replies.

Then we walk through three types of conversation starters you can use right away:

Starting with curiosity—asking something you genuinely want to know

Using context—mentioning something they posted or shared

Reflecting—inviting them to share their thoughts or experience

These aren’t scripts to memorize.

They’re simple ways to connect in a way that feels natural and human.

We also talk about how to shift your mindset…

From “I don’t want to bother them”
to “I’m here to understand them.”

Because you’re not interrupting—you’re responding to a signal they already gave when they chose to follow you or engage with your content.

And that changes everything.

✨ Key Takeaway:

Your first message doesn’t have to be perfect.
It just has to be sent.

🎯 This Week’s Action Step:

Start one conversation today.
Keep it simple. Keep it real.

🔗 Ready to Go Deeper?

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You don’t need perfect words.
You just need to start the conversation.
-Cheyanne

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