198: How to Stop Wasting Time on Dating Apps: The Burned Haystack Method for Finding Healthy Love with Dr. Jennie Young & Bela Gandhi
Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast
What if you stopped trying to give everyone a chance and started getting better at recognizing who is actually right for you?
In this episode of the Smart Dating Academy Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Jennie Young, creator of the Burned Haystack Dating Method, to talk about dating apps, red flags, compatibility, boundaries, and finding healthy love.
After returning to dating around age 50, Jennie began noticing patterns in the profiles and messages she encountered. That experience led her to develop a method for filtering potential matches more effectively.
We discuss:
Why dating is a process of elimination
Why trying to appeal to everyone can work against you
How dating profiles reveal information through language and tone
Jennie's 33 red flag rhetorical patterns
How to ask questions that reveal someone's values
Why Jennie doesn't assume positive intent on dating apps
When being too strict with dating filters can become a risk
How video dates can protect your time
Why respecting boundaries is an important green flag
What emotional regulation looks like in dating
How Jennie met her partner on Hinge
Why instant chemistry isn't always necessary
Why you don't have to feel optimistic every day to find love
Jennie's own love story is a reminder that you can feel frustrated with dating, question the process, and still find someone wonderful.
If you're dating after divorce, dating in midlife, or ready to stop wasting time on people who aren't right for you, this episode is for you.
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