EP 110: Clear Decision Making Comes From Rewiring Your Identity as an Ambitious Woman [Neurosomatic Practitioner - Riana Malia]

Identity Shift for Women starts when you stop making decisions from an old version of yourself.

If you’re a mom in STEM who’s successful on paper but disconnected inside, this episode will help you make clear decision-making choices without self-blame.

Riana Malia is a board-certified neurosomatic practitioner and identity architect with 20+ years in personal development. She helps high-achieving women regulate their nervous system, clear old patterns, and make aligned decisions without reliving their whole story.

This conversation is about the invisible reason your decisions feel harder than they “should”: your identity and your nervous system are still operating from an older version of you.

You’ll learn a practical clarity-first framework (values + non-negotiables), a simple way to stop people-pleasing, and a micro-practice that interrupts the loop of decision fatigue.

If you keep trying to “think your way out,” you’ll stay stuck. This episode shows you how to make decisions from safety and clarity so you can move forward with confidence.

“I’m doing all of the right things. Why can’t I figure this out?” If that’s you, hit play.

IDENTITY SHIFT FOR WOMEN - QUOTABLE MOMENTS

“You cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it.”
“Between now and dead, what do you want?”
“If you want a different story, you have to stop telling the old one.”
“And the thing about your unconscious mind is it will never make you a liar.”

 

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS 

(0:00): Teaser
(2:56): Introducing Riana
(4:45): Identity shift and how lack of clarity leads to almost what you want
(6:49): Conscious vs. unconscious mind: why insight alone does not always create change
(12:05): Boundaries and people-pleasing: the clean yes / no decision making
(19:58): Clearing “expired ways of thinking” to make room for what’s next (Pantry/closet metaphor)
(22:11): The 24-hour rubber-band rewiring practice (“magnet for miracles”)
(30:01): Moving from an old identity & self-blame to a “next level” identity - Riana’s heart-felt story
(41:17): Being “in” vs. “on top of” your identity story
(43:28): In 72 hours(!), rewire your way of thinking to make room for what’s next
(0:00): Listener gift
(51:04): Riana’s information

 
 
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KEEP LEARNING ON THIS TOPIC

The perfect decision making sequel – ⏮️ EP 107: Confident Decision Making for Ambitious Moms | Unlocking Intuition for Aligned Action [Leadership Advisor: Leah Goldman] (Podcast)
How identity affects burnout & balance – ⏮️ EP 77: The Identity Crisis That's Causing Your Burnout (& How to Finally Find Balance) [Dr. Jihane Farrell - Part 1] (Podcast)
Life planning framework - 📖 Why Planning is the Key to Time Freedom for Ambitious Moms (Blog)

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