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Ask Jay: How Do I Forgive?
26 August 2026

Ask Jay: How Do I Forgive?

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

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Jay answers four listener calls about the messy, unresolved side of forgiveness, from custody guilt and bias in parenting, to forgiving yourself after the sudden loss of a parent, uncovering a spouse’s hidden life after they’re gone, and the heartbreak of a friendship betrayal. Jay shares research-backed tools to release guilt, rebuild trust, and move forward for your own peace, without excusing what happened.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Introduction

00:24 What Forgiveness Is Really For

00:49 The Guilt Mothers Are Expected To Carry

01:54 Are Mothers And Fathers Held to Different Standards?

07:45 The Guilt That Comes After Losing a Parent

08:40 Forgiving Yourself For What You Couldn’t Control

15:52 When Grief Comes With Betrayal

17:54 The Trap Of “I Should Have Known”

22:05 The 4 Levels Of Trust

25:17 The Pain Of A Friendship Betrayal

26:20 When Healing Doesn’t Feel Like Healing
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