On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Are you tired of dating?

What’s your biggest dating struggle?

Today, Jay talks about the complexities of dating, relationships, and building meaningful connections in today’s fast-paced world. He emphasizes the importance of focusing on trust, emotional maturity, communication, and shared values – traits that truly matter in a partner – while learning to move past surface-level “icks” that can distract us from finding real love.

Through personal anecdotes and insights from Match’s Singles in America study, Jay explores why many of us are chasing outdated ideas of love, trying to recreate the romanticized relationships of our younger selves. Instead, shift your focus to the present, to nurture healthy dynamics built on honesty, respect, and mutual growth.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Build Trust in Relationships

How to Spot the Right Partner Through Their Actions

How to Ask Questions That Reveal True Priorities

How to Balance Patience and Expectations in Relationships

How to Handle Communication Differences Effectively

No matter where you are on your journey –single, dating, or in a long-term relationship – remember that love is a process, not a destination.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:01 Why Dating Has Become Extremely Challenging

06:24 The Core Values Feature

10:28 Questions to Ask on the First Date

12:58 Top Two Turn On with a New Partner

13:55 Are You Being Patient with the Right Person?

17:30 Does Your Partner’s Opinion Bother You?

19:14 Allow Other Forms of Relationships to Grow

21:54 Do You Communicate Properly with Your Partner?

24:01 Most Relationships Has a Healing Problem

25:16 Are You in the Wrong Relationship?

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How do you stay disciplined when life gets busy?

What’s a routine that keeps you on track?

Today, Jay welcomes Alexis Ohanian, tech founder, venture capitalist, and advocate for social change. Known as the co-founder of Reddit and founder of venture firm 776, Alexis shares the profound lessons he's learned from building communities, parenting, and navigating personal and professional challenges.

Alexis shares insights into the evolution of online identities and the surprising dedication of individuals who moderate and foster online spaces; his role as a father, offering a candid glimpse into the delicate balance between introducing his children to the digital world and preserving their innocence. 

The conversation also tackles larger societal issues, such as the importance of role models for young men and the transformative potential of positive male friendships. Alexis doesn’t shy away from discussing the darker sides of technology, including the need for ethical boundaries and his personal experiences advocating for change within Reddit.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Foster a Sense of Community Online

How to Introduce Kids to the Internet Safely

How to Navigate Cultural Differences in Relationships

How to Encourage Grit and Perseverance in Children

How to Lead a Team with Empathy and Vision

How to Prioritize Family While Building a Career

In today’s fast-paced and ever-evolving world, it’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters. Yet, the foundation of a fulfilling life lies in embracing challenges, building strong relationships, and staying true to our values.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:40 The Human Mind’s Deep Need for Community

02:59 The Challenges of Moderating Online Communities

05:26 Raising Kids to Navigate the Internet Safely

10:13 Why AI Can’t Replace Human Empathy

17:28 The Power of Optimism in Uncertain Times

21:42 Drawing Ethical Lines in Content Moderation

29:52 Saying No to Risky and Irresponsible Startups

33:05 The Key Milestones Behind Reddit’s Success

35:05 A Family’s Journey of Resilience and Survival

41:46 Coping with Family Tragedy While Moving Forward

52:27 The Joy of Seeing Hard Work Pay Off

01:00:15 Lessons Learned Through Loss and Reflection

01:12:45 Building Greatness with a Strong Partnership

01:19:19 Choosing the Right Partner for Life and Growth

01:27:23 Teaching Kids to Embrace Failure and Grow

01:35:27 Alexis on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Alexis Ohanian | Facebook

Alexis Ohanian | TikTok

Alexis Ohanian | LinkedIn

Alexis Ohanian | Instagram

Alexis Ohanian | YouTube

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How do you unwind after a long day?

What’s your favorite way to relax quickly?

Today, Jay sits down with David Ko, the CEO of Calm and author of the groundbreaking book Recharge. Together, they unravel the complexities of stress, mental health, and how to create a fulfilling life in today’s fast-paced world.

David shares his personal journey, from navigating childhood stress to becoming a leader who champions mental wellness. He introduces the “battery analogy,” a simple yet profound way to gauge our mental and emotional energy levels. Drawing from his book, David explains how understanding and managing our “battery” can transform our approach to stress, productivity, and personal growth.

Jay and David discuss the power of presence, the necessity of balance, and how redefining stress—from harmful to helpful—can lead to resilience and growth. Their conversation dives deep into actionable strategies, such as creating rituals to recharge, fostering vulnerability at work, and redefining leadership to prioritize mental health. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Recognize When You Need to Recharge

How to Foster Vulnerability in Leadership

How to Balance Good Stress and Bad Stress

How to Build a Culture of Gratitude in the Workplace

How to Take Breaks for Better Productivity

How to Identify and Remove Stress-Inducing Triggers

Recharge your mind, body, and spirit—not just to keep going, but to thrive with purpose and joy. Prioritize yourself, because when you’re recharged, you’re unstoppable.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:10 What’s Something You’re not Calm About?

03:31 How's Your Battery?

05:42 The Four Battery Zones

10:59 The Importance of Recharging

14:24 Vulnerability in Leadership

18:37 Good Stress vs Bad Stress

25:25 Mental Health in the Workplace

28:56 Listen and Become More Purposeful

28:57 How to Take Care of Your Team

30:44 Supporting Employees’ Mental Health

38:10 Tools for Managing Burnout

44:19 How Do You Deal with Stress?

52:02 Put Your Focus on Healthy Stress 

53:27 Daily Practices for Recharging

01:01:42 What is a Quality Decision?

01:07:08 David on Final Five

01:14:90 Is Your Battery Full?

Episode Resources:

David Ko | Instagram

David Ko | LinkedIn

Calm | Website

Calm | Instagram

Calm | Facebook

Calm | X

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What in your day makes you happiest?

Where do you see yourself in five years?

Today, Jay sits down with the iconic rapper, multi-platinum artist, and entrepreneur Wiz Khalifa. The episode explores Wiz’s journey from navigating the challenges of his youth in Pittsburgh to becoming one of the most recognizable names in the music industry. Throughout their conversation, Wiz shares profound insights into his personal growth, family values, and the discipline behind his success.

Wiz reflects on his early days, including the loss of a record deal and the resilience it took to rebuild his career. He discusses his evolution as an artist and individual, emphasizing the importance of gratitude, patience, and staying true to oneself. The conversation also dives into the balance between his professional life and personal responsibilities, particularly as a father. Wiz talks about raising his 11-year-old son, Sebastian, and his new daughter, Cadence, shedding light on how fatherhood has deepened his perspective on life and masculinity.

Jay and Wiz also explore deeper topics like handling grief, cultivating self-discipline, and the nuanced concept of masculinity in today’s world. Wiz’s candid anecdotes, whether about quitting alcohol, building financial literacy, or practicing MMA for mental clarity, inspire listeners to live authentically, embrace personal growth, and focus on what truly matters.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Rebuild Confidence After a Setback

How to Balance Personal Life and Career Successfully

How to Find Gratitude in Everyday Moments

How to Stay Calm Under Pressure

How to Teach Discipline and Politeness to Kids

How to Manage Money as a Creative Professional

How to Stay Authentic in the Spotlight

Every setback is an opportunity to rebuild stronger, and every triumph is a chance to inspire others. Prioritize what matters, whether it’s your personal growth, the relationships you cherish, or the values you stand for. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

04:15 Navigating Fame As A Star

09:18 The Craziest Fan Interactions 

10:07 Family Matters The Most

11:49 Dealing With Grief

13:04 Seeking Family Support 

13:54 Finding Balance In Grief

14:50 Life Before Fame And Success

16:47 What's It Like To Lose A Record Deal?

17:15 Confidence In The Face Adversity 

18:37 Advice To Younger Self

19:22  Driven Goals And Compulsion

20:50 Being Contented With What You Have 

21:30 What's The Hardest Conversation You Have Ever Had?

24:40 Building Connections With Your Audience 

25:50 Ever Caught Anything Crazy On Camera?

26:45 Then VS Now Journey With Other Stars

29:13 Advice For Up And Coming Artists

32:11 How Far Do You Plan Your Goals?

32:49 Best Moves In Money Management 

35:58 Dumbest Thing I Have Ever Bought

36:35 Best Investment I Have Ever Made

38:20 Relationship With God

40:30 Moving Around In My Childhood 

41:58 How My Childhood Experiences Has Impacted Me

44:48 How My Views On Fatherhood Has Changed

50:17 How I Take Control Of My Career As An Artist

54:17 What I Learnt From My Mom

55:31 Something People Should Know About Me

1:00 How Working Out Helped Me

1:02 My Advice For Men Who Want To Get Into Health And Fitness

1:03 My Perspective On Masculinity 

1:08 My Take On MMA And Martial Arts

1:12:09 How I View My New Album And Most Viewed Video

1:16:22 My Motivation To Go Sober From Alcohol 

1:18:01 First Thing I Do Before I Go To Bed

1:18:32 Wiz on Final Five 

Episode Resources:

Wiz Khalifa | Website

Wiz Khalifa | Instagram

Wiz Khalifa | TikTok

Wiz Khalifa | YouTube

Wiz Khalifa | Facebook

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What does a "rich life" mean to you?

Do you focus more on what you have or what you lack?

Today, Jay will redefine what it truly means to live a "rich life." While society often equates wealth with material possessions and financial success, Jay challenges this narrow definition and explores how richness can also encompass time, energy, relationships, and inner fulfillment.

Drawing on personal experiences, historical insights, and anecdotes from his conversations with inspiring figures like Kobe Bryant and Tom Hanks, Jay illustrates how people can find peace and purpose by focusing on what genuinely matters. He also addresses the pitfalls of tying happiness solely to financial success, emphasizing that it’s not money itself but our mindset—whether driven by envy, ego, or gratitude—that shapes our sense of abundance.

Jay further unpacks our personal definitions of wealth. Are we in a season of prioritizing career growth, family, love, or personal development? He explores how life’s richness comes from aligning with our true values and fully embracing the priorities that resonate most in each phase of life, without guilt or external judgment.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Define Your Rich Life

How to Shift to an Abundance Mindset

How to Find Purpose Beyond Money

How to Focus Your Energy for Growth

How to Live Authentically and Fully

Richness isn’t about how much you have but how deeply you experience life. Prioritize what matters, invest your energy where it counts, and trust that each step you take toward alignment with your values brings you closer to a truly abundant existence. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:39 How Do You Define Wealth?

06:59 What You Do Becomes Your Identity

10:26 How to Create a Rich, Abundant Mindset?

11:46 The Difference Between Resume and Eulogy Virtues

17:01 How Do You Spend Your Time and Energy?

19:46 Looking at Richness Beyond Money

22:47 The Five Regrets of the Dying

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What’s the first step to making money with no savings?

How do you choose which opportunities to start with?

Today, Jay sits down with Codie Sanchez, author of “Main Street Millionaire”. Codie is a powerhouse entrepreneur, investor, and the mind behind Contrarian Thinking, a platform dedicated to empowering people to build real wealth through unconventional investments and small business ownership. Codie’s journey is anything but typical: she went from a middle-class background to finance jobs at Goldman Sachs and Vanguard, then pivoted into journalism, and finally found her calling by building wealth through owning small businesses.

Codie breaks down the idea that you don’t need groundbreaking ideas or tons of cash to get started, just a willingness to look beyond the obvious. From laundromats to vending machines, she explains how these “boring” businesses can actually be gold mines, offering steady and substantial returns that often get overlooked in today’s flashy, social media-driven vision of success.

Together, Jay and Codie dive into practical steps for starting your journey in business ownership. They discuss the essentials, how to make deals, manage risk, and recognize the right opportunities. Along the way, they debunk the myth that you need to be rich or have a finance degree to succeed. Instead, they focus on the importance of learning the language of money, cultivating grit, and keeping a curious mindset.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Take Control of Your Financial Future

How to Start Building Wealth Without a Big Idea

How to Identify Profitable Small Businesses

How to Build a Strong Relationship with Money

How to Turn Curiosity into Cash

How to Leverage Ownership for Financial Freedom

How to Find Under-the-Radar Investment Opportunities

You have the ability to create meaningful change, not only for yourself but for those around you, by building something that truly matters. Keep moving forward, and believe that financial freedom is within your reach.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:57 What Makes Rich People Rich?

04:40 The Reason Why People Don’t Talk About Money

06:30 Where Are We At Financially?

09:50 Misconceptions About What Makes Money

13:00 4-Step Process to Consistently Make Money

14:47 Academic Skills Don’t Translate to a Stable Career

17:44 Do You Need Money to Make Money?

23:06 The Key to Wealth is Taking Risks

26:48 We Can All Get Rich Together

32:52 Focus on the Foundation, not Tactics

35:28 You’ll Make Less Money if You Think You Will

36:57 Learn To Ask the Right Questions

43:57 The Best Mentorship Advice

49:06 You Can Make Money From Anything

52:33 The Richest People Started Small

54:19 What Core Business Skills You Should Invest In

01:00:16 Recognize Your Value to Get Better Deals

01:10:21 Every Business has a Value

01:13:49 Are You Bad at Math

01:17:47 Codie on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Codie Sanchez | Website

Codie Sanchez | YouTube

Codie Sanchez | Instagram

Codie Sanchez | Facebook

Codie Sanchez | TikTok

Codie Sanchez | LinkedIn

Main Street Millionaire: How to Make Extraordinary Wealth Buying Ordinary Businesses

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What makes you feel confident about yourself?

How do you build your confidence when it’s low?

Today, Jay discusses a topic that's all too familiar - the constant barrage of unrealistic beauty standards. He challenges the notion of a singular "most beautiful woman in the world" and explores how societal expectations and media influence our perception of beauty.

Jay breaks down the historical and cultural factors that shape beauty standards, from the ancient Greek ideals of symmetry and proportion to the modern-day obsession with youth and perfection. He highlights the role of social media in perpetuating unrealistic beauty ideals and encourages listeners to question these norms and embrace their individuality.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Embrace Individuality

How to Build Self-Love

How to Set Boundaries

How to Appreciate Uniqueness

How to Practice Mindfulness

By understanding the forces that shape our perception of beauty and cultivating self-love, we can live authentic, fulfilling lives. Remember, true beauty radiates from within.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

03:21 Different Ways We Think About Beauty

07:32 Definition of Beauty Through History

13:49 Beauty Standards of the West

16:11 What Do We Believe to be Beautiful About Ourselves?

17:05 3 Ways to Build Self Love

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What triggers envy for you?

How do you turn envy into action?

Today, in this eye-opening episode, Jay Jay sits down with the legendary Dr. Jordan B. Peterson, a psychologist, educator, and bestselling author. This conversation has been in the making for years, and it’s packed with deep insights on human development, identity, and how ancient wisdom ties into today’s challenges.

One of the standout moments is when Jordan talks about his upcoming book, We Who Wrestle With God. He takes listeners through the timeless stories of the Old Testament, explaining how they provide profound lessons on values, integrity, and personal growth. He also talks about the importance of always telling the truth and viewing life as an exploration of what’s possible. 

Jay and Jordan discuss how easy it is for people to get trapped in “false adventures”—chasing immediate gratification or quick fixes that ultimately don’t fulfill. Jordan reminds us that real growth involves shedding old parts of ourselves to move forward and align with bigger, long-term goals.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Build a Life of Integrity

How to Turn Failure into Learning Opportunities

How to Stay True to Long-Term Goals

How to Practice Gratitude Daily

How to Recognize and Avoid Short-Sighted Decisions

How to Align Your Actions with Your Purpose

How to Balance Ambition and Ethical Living

This conversation highlights the power of facing challenges, learning from experiences, and staying aligned with long-term goals.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

1:24 How Technology Exacerbates Manipulation

08:13 Escaping A Limited Reality

09:41 Addressing Problems At The Root

13:55 The Effectiveness of Psychotherapy on Psychopaths

18:17 The Mindset of Predatory Psychopaths

21:03 Tips for Women to Protect Themselves from Manipulative People

24:16 PTSD And Its Impact 

27:17 How Stories Shape Our Identity

37:06 Why Self-Consciousness Leads to Misery

40:03 The Difference Between Seeing and Thinking

47:54 The Importance of Long-Term Vision

52:56 The Dangers of Envy

55:28 Strategies to Overcome Envy

59:57 The Role of Pride and Arrogance in Personal Growth

01:05:14 The Art of Understanding Through Listening

01:09:04 Avoiding the Weaponization of Truth

01:10:45 How Short-Term Gratification Derails Progress

01:13:11 Setting Standards With Encouragement 

01:16:31 Sources Of Hope Today

01:26:02 Jordan On Final 5

Episode Resources:

Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Website

Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | YouTube

Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Instagram

Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | Facebook

Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | TikTok

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What drains your energy the most?

How do you deal with toxic behaviors?

Today, Jay tackles a topic we can all relate to – dealing with those challenging family members and coworkers who add a little extra stress to our lives, especially as the holiday season rolls around. If you’re already bracing yourself for gatherings with people who seem to bring more tension than joy, Jay’s got you covered. He dives into why certain people fall into negative or toxic patterns, breaking down types like the pessimist, the complainer, the eternal victim, the energy drainer, and the “just good enough” person. Jay’s perspective sheds light on how these behaviors aren’t really who they are at their core but are often habits born from past hurts or unmet needs.

Jay doesn’t just stop at explaining, though – he shares some really practical, relatable tips on how to navigate these tough dynamics without letting them throw you off balance. He talks about ways to respond with empathy, set emotional boundaries, and even gently redirect conversations when they start to drag you down. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Handle Toxic Family Members at Gatherings

How to Protect Your Peace Around Negative People

How to Set Boundaries with Draining Coworkers

How to Turn Negative Conversations Around

How to Recognize Negative Patterns in Loved Ones

How to Stop Taking Toxic Comments Personally

You can’t always change someone else’s behavior, but you can protect your own joy and keep a positive outlook. So, as you head into those family gatherings or work meetings, just remember to stay grounded and prioritize your well-being – you deserve it!

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:24 How Do You Deal with Toxic People?

03:26 What Makes a Person Negative or Toxic?

04:34 Type 1: The Pessimist

06:06 Type 2: The Complainer

08:05 Type 3: The Eternal Victim

10:19 Type 4: The “Just Good Enough”

13:19 Some Toxic Behavior is Meant to Protect You

15:13 Tips and Strategies to Deal with Toxicity

17:12 Tip 1: Try to Understand Their Story

19:01 Tip 2: The Negativity Begins with Themselves

22:47 Tip 3: Respond with a Reflective Remark

24:05 Tip 4: Create Distance and Boundaries

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Have you ever felt stuck in a negative relationship cycle?

Have you ever struggled with setting boundaries in your relationships?

Today, Jay welcomes back a community favorite, the renowned psychotherapist, bestselling author, and podcast host Lori Gottlieb, for an insightful chat about love, relationships, and emotional growth. Lori, best known for her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and as co-host of the popular Dear Therapists podcast, brings her deep wisdom and practical advice that really hits home with listeners.

Lori shares how people often step into love with unrealistic expectations, thanks to social media and pop culture. She reminds us that while the spark of initial chemistry is thrilling, true, long-lasting love thrives on a deeper connection and genuine understanding. One of the highlights is Lori’s take on “idiot compassion” versus “wise compassion.” She breaks down how real compassion means looking at ourselves honestly, recognizing our patterns, and owning our part in the relationship. This is essential for anyone feeling trapped in negative cycles.

As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Lori dive into family dynamics, especially around in-laws and blending families. Lori offers practical tips on how to support your relationship while still showing respect for parents, pointing out that these challenges are usually a couple's issues, not just external ones.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations

How to Practice Wise Compassion

How to Break Negative Patterns

How to Handle Pressure to Rush Relationships

How to Prioritize Clear Communication

How to Avoid Pop Culture Relationship Pitfalls

How to Cultivate Emotional Resilience

Remember, true connection flourishes when we commit to growth, communicate openly, and remain empathetic to both ourselves and others. Every step taken toward understanding and compassion brings you closer to creating a life filled with genuine, lasting connections.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:29 What is Everyone Doing at My Age?

05:08 Why Doing Self Work Matters

08:40 Why You Need to Slow Down to Save Time

13:03 How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationship

17:03 First Date Impressions Aren’t Always Accurate

21:26 How Do You Define Real Human Connection?

24:33 Do You Fully Understand Your Partner?

28:24 Learn to Communicate Your Desires

31:26 This is What Happens When You Don’t Communicate

35:24 Why We’re Unreliable Narrators of Our Story

37:52 Be Consistent with Your Boundaries

42:36 We All Want to Be Liked

45:46 You’re Not Ready to Marry Yet

49:51 Practice Being Your True Self All the Time

52:36 The Blind Spots of Dating

57:08 The Truth About Future Tripping

01:00:10 How Do You Feel About the Other Person?

01:01:33 The 7-Year Mark of Marriages

01:03:50 Can Having Children Save a Marriage?

01:07:35 In-Law Issues is a Couple Issue

01:12:01 The Concept of Feeling Felt

01:16:50 How Long Can You Tolerate Disrespect from Your Partner? 

Episode Resources:

Lori Gottlieb | YouTube

Lori Gottlieb | Instagram

Lori Gottlieb | Website

Dear Therapists Podcast

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

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