241. Was I Enough? How To Stop Ruminating After Social Situations

In this epsidoe, Alissa explores the post-social spiral that so many highly sensitive people get trapped in, and the surprisingly simple tool she uses to stop it in its tracks.

Alissa shares two recent experiences of her own, one at a casual social gathering where she felt quieter than usual, and one at a networking event that pushed her way outside her comfort zone. She also pulls from a live coaching call inside the Not Too Sensitive Club, where a member shared her own version of this breakthrough that stopped the spiral.

What you'll hear in this episode:

Why the post-social replay isn't a sign you did something wrong: it's a self-protective pattern rooted in past experiences of rejection or judgmentHow Alissa mentally files a worry away and commits to not reopening itThe difference between recognizing something you'd do differently next time and punishing yourself for how you showed upWhy sensitive people often feel pressure to be "on" in every interaction, and what shifts when you stop trying to manage how others perceive you

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