The Art of Lasting Change: How Mindful Agency Transforms Our Lives

The Power of Change, Attention, and Restraint

Episode Overview

In this insightful episode, we delve into the complex process of change—how it occurs, why it’s so challenging, and practical steps to foster genuine transformation in our lives. Drawing on timeless wisdom from Marcus Aurelius and Viktor Frankl, as well as cutting-edge neuroscience by Dr. Jeffrey Schwartz ("The Mind and the Brain"), our host unpacks the stages of change and reveals how attention and intention are keys to lasting progress.

Key Topics & Takeaways

1. Stages of Change

Pre-contemplation: Unaware or resistant to change.

Contemplation: Considering that a change might be needed.

Preparation/Planning: Determining how to implement changes and seeking help when needed.

Action: Actively making changes (e.g., starting new habits).

Maintenance: Sustaining positive changes; recognizing relapses are part of growth.

“Real change may require repeated attempts—but there is something refining in striving.”

2. Mind vs. Brain

Inspired by Dr. Jeffrey Schwartz:

The physical brain is hardwired through experience (habits/addictions).

The mind holds free will—the power to choose (“free won’t”).

Between stimulus & response lies our freedom to choose (Viktor Frankl).

3. Attention & Intention

Attention: What grabs us moment-to-moment?

Intention: The deliberate focus of our efforts.

Example: Setting an intention not to smoke for 60 minutes—and keeping attention fixed on that goal.

4. Practical Steps for Change

Notice triggers/cravings when they arise—name them (“There’s my brain…”)

Practice restraint—not acting immediately on every impulse (“free won’t”)

Embrace discomfort rather than avoiding it—a crucial step towards meaningful goals (Michael Easter's "Embracing Discomfort")

Gradually extend your ability to delay gratification—start with small intervals

“Of all manifestations of power, restraint impresses men the most.” —Thucydides

5. Neuroplasticity in Action

Repeated acts of mindful restraint literally reshape your brain over time, building strength in self-control like training a muscle.

Challenge for Listeners

For today, pay close attention whenever you feel a craving or impulse (such as food, smoking, or social media). Pause intentionally—even just five minutes—and observe what happens inside you as you practice “restraint.”

Remember: Your mind is powerful—you have more control than you think!

Featured Books & References

The Mind and the Brain – Dr. Jeffrey Schwartz

Grit – Angela Duckworth

Man’s Search for Meaning – Viktor Frankl

The Comfort Crisis / Embracing Discomfort – Michael Easter

Thank you for listening! Practice intentional living this week—and remember: You’re the conductor of your own orchestra! ```