Effectively Communicating (God's Love to Your Mate), Part 2

Stop the small talk. Chip shares how to move beyond logistics to have genuine heart-to-heart conversations with your spouse starting today.

How to effectively communicate:

I. The command – Put on the proper attire -Colossians 3:12

COMPASSION – Empathy to action vs. cynical -Matthew 9:36KINDNESS – Whatever is helpful, beneficial vs. critical -Jeremiah 9:23-24, John 4HUMILITY – Their needs first, posture of a servant -Philippians 2:5-11GENTLENESS – Strength under control, your emotions -Matthew 11:28-30PATIENCE – Endure with a good attitude -2 Peter 3:8-9

II. Why the “clothing” metaphor is crucial to biblical communication

“Old clothes” must be taken off. -Colossians 3:8-9The new self requires “new clothes”. -Colossians 3:10-11

The Principle: Who we are determines how we “dress” (communicate from the heart)

III. The problem:

We have settled for techniques and self-help tools to change how we speak, and to modify our emotions and behaviors to improve compatibility; rather than focusing on the deep-rooted transformation of our hearts which empowers us to give the life-giving love of Christ to our mates.

IV. The solution is threefold:

1. Don’t buy the old lies*

I am what I have: PossessionsI am what I accomplish: PerformanceI am what others think of me: Popularity

2. Dress appropriately for your mate

A – AFFIRMATIONW – WARMTHE – ENCOURAGEMENT

3. Have at least 2 “couples conferences” per week**

What are you concerned about?What do you wish?What are you willing to do?

*Discover Your True Self book and Affirmation Cards by Chip Ingram and Theresa Ingram.

**Marriage that Works by Chip Ingram.

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I Choose Love Book"The Five Love Languages" Book by Gary Chapman

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