From Diagnosis To Direction: Cara Lockwood On Taking Back Control

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A routine mammogram, a life-altering call, and a decision that would shape everything that followed: who holds the wheel. Author Cara Lockwood joins us to talk about facing HER2-positive breast cancer, reclaiming agency, and transforming a frightening diagnosis into a blueprint for action, humor, and hope.

We start with the fog of early days—the “white room” where language blurs and time stretches—then move into the moment Cara decided cancer wouldn’t decide for her. She walks through the realities of standard of care, the personal calculus behind chemotherapy, and the filter that guided her choices: throw everything you can at the first fight and live without regret. Along the way, we unpack how to prioritize when energy is scarce, using the glass-versus-rubber-ball mindset to protect what truly matters and let the rest bounce.

The conversation gets real about relationships under pressure, the “pity and pivot” friends who fade, and the quiet heroes who check in without prescribing cures. We also lean into humor as legitimate medicine—from techno-symphony MRIs to awkward clinic moments—and the science-backed power of positive expectancy in recovery. Kara reframes the old war metaphor, treating the body not as an enemy but as a confused part that needs clear direction, compassion, and boundaries. It’s tough love paired with deep grace.

Cara’s new book, There’s No Good Book For This, But I Wrote One Anyway: The Irreverent Guide to Crushing Breast Cancer, blends memoir, practical guidance, and end-of-chapter pep talks that refill resilience when it runs low. If you’ve been navigating a new diagnosis, standing with someone who is, or just rethinking how you make hard choices, this one’s for you. Listen, share with someone who needs courage today, and if this conversation helped, subscribe and leave a review to help others find it.

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