Ep: 31. Why the one doing the most still feels the least powerful. After the Interview with Melissa Hogenboom

After our conversation with Melissa Hogenboom, we couldn’t stop thinking about one thing:

Power.

Not the obvious kind, but the invisible, everyday power shaping how couples live, decide, and relate to each other.

In this after-the-interview episode of Equal-ish, Kate and Rachel explore  

Why the person doing the most at home can feel the least powerful

How stress, silence, and resentment are linked to disempowerment

The surprising way power reduces empathy (and what that does to couples)

Why money still quietly shapes who has influence

The question that reveals more than “who does more”: who controls their time?

We also get personal, from asking our kids who they think has power, to rethinking what self-care actually means.

Because this is more than chores or fairness. It’s about autonomy, identity, and the ability to say: “this is what I need.”

If you’ve ever felt like something is “off” in the balance at home but struggled to explain why, this episode might give you the language.

Find out more about Melissa Hogenboom, author of Breadwinners, and The Motherhood Complex.

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Find out more about your hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs. 

This episode is proudly supported by Relationscapes Podcast