What 17,500 Boys Really Want From Adults | Tauranga Boys' Principal Andy Turner

A school can have great buildings, strong results, and a proud sports history and still miss the thing that actually makes young people thrive. We sit down with Andy Turner, principal of Tauranga Boys’ College in New Zealand, to unpack what he calls “invisible strength” and why school culture and team culture start with beliefs and values long before they show up as traditions, standards, or slogans.

We get specific about boys’ education and leadership: the biggest message young men share is simple and confronting, they want to know someone believes in them. Andy explains how belief works like a jump start, activating identity and helping a student reconnect with what matters to him. From there we talk practical culture tools, including a cornerstone of respect, the challenge of creating alignment across classrooms and sports programs, and why consistency matters more than having the perfect script.

The conversation also goes deeper into intrinsic motivation, emotional regulation, and resilience. We explore how boys navigate modern pressures around identity, how leaders can give permission to try and fail safely, and why learning to fall is essential in a world where “failure” is often simulated and reset online. Andy’s final analogy, grandma’s cooking, nails the point: two environments can look the same on the surface, but care and intention change how it feels to belong.

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