Beyond Affairs

Seven months after discovering Brian's affair, Anne wrote a letter that changed the direction of their marriage forever.In this deeply personal episode, Brian and Anne step away from their roles as coaches and counselors to revisit one of the most vulnerable moments of their own affair recovery. Anne reads the actual letter she wrote during their healing journey, and together they unpack why it...

Why do so many men resist personal growth; even when they desperately want their marriage to heal?The answer may surprise you.Brian is joined by Conrad and David, two men who have walked their own healing journeys after infidelity. Together they explore why "self-improvement" often feels like criticism, why shame keeps men stuck, and what actually creates lasting transformation.You'll discover...

When a marriage is struggling after betrayal, it's easy to reach for labels. Narcissist. Addict. Abuser. Toxic. But what happens when those labels become the lens through which we see ourselves, or our spouse?In this thought-provoking conversation, Brian sits down with licensed marriage and family therapist Tyler Patrick to explore how misdiagnosis and misplaced labels can actually hinder...

Do men who cheat still think about the affair partner? Do they miss them? Wonder where they are? Compare their spouse to them?These are some of the most painful and frequently asked questions for couples walking through infidelity.Brian sits down with two men who acted unfaithfully, did the hard work of healing, and successfully rebuilt their marriages. Together, they answer the difficult...

What if codependency isn't about being needy?What if it's simply this:"I need you to show up a certain way in order for me to be emotionally okay."In this week's podcast, therapist and relationship coach Camille Canales shares how she discovered her own hidden codependency, and the surprising path to finding peace, even when other people disappoint, betray, or fail to meet our expectations.We...

In this conversation, Brian sits down with longtime friend Tom to talk about one of the hardest parts of affair recovery: staying hopeful when healing feels painfully slow.Tom shares his story of living a double life for nearly 18 years, the devastating moment of discovery, and the emotional roller coaster that followed. Together, Brian and Tom unpack what recovery really looks like behind the...

What happens when you don’t hear about the affair… you read it?In today’s world, many betrayed spouses are discovering infidelity through text messages, emails, photos, and synced devices, what we call digital disclosure. And while it may feel like you’re getting the full truth, the reality is far more complicated, and often more damaging.In this episode, Anne and Brian unpack: The difference...

“I just need you to be honest.” It’s one of the most common phrases after betrayal, but it often leaves couples stuck. Brian, Anne, and Tiffanie reveal why honesty is only part of the equation, and why transparency is what truly heals.From the pain of partial answers to the power of proactive disclosure, they break down what transparency really looks like in everyday moments, and how it...

Brian Bercht shares a unique perspective after attending Anne’s Victorious Woman Conference—not as a participant, but as an observer. What he witnessed was powerful.Across different ages, backgrounds, and stages of healing, these women displayed common traits that set them apart—not perfection, but victory in progress. Whether you're in the middle of healing or further along the journey, this...

In this throwback Anne talks with Melissa and Nancy about their stories of recovery. You’ll hear from two courageous women, who are in different stages of their journey. From the shock and chaos of early discovery to the slow, intentional steps toward healing, their stories reveal what this process really looks like—raw, emotional, and ultimately hopeful.In this episode, we explore:What the early...