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180: Why Every Good Girl Needs an Ice Queen Era
30 August 2026

180: Why Every Good Girl Needs an Ice Queen Era

BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko

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You have been warm to everyone. And it has exhausted you.

In this episode Margarita brings back an ancient Slavic wisdom she nearly lost to western society and makes the full case for your

ice queen era. Not cold for the sake of it. Not emotionally shut down. Just deeply discerning about where your warmth actually goes.


Because warmth given to everyone is worth nothing.

And warmth given to the right people changes everything.


In this episode:

1. Warmth is valuable because it is limited

2. Coldness gives you enough distance to see reality

3. An ice queen does not react on impact

4. Being colder means you stop explaining the verdict

5. Stop mothering people who disappoint you

6. You can love someone without giving them access

7. Colder women are harder to manipulate

8. Protected softness is intimacy, unprotected softness is self abandonment

9. The cool girl and the ice queen are not the same thing

10. The goal is not to be Elsa forever, it is to be discerning


If you give your warmth to everyone and get nothing back, if you over explain every boundary until it loses its power, or if you keep

performing warmth even when you are genuinely hurt, this one is for you.


Welcome to the ice queen era.


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Love you lots like jelly tots xx

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