Episode 324: Who Bears the Emotional Labor and Mental Load for Sex?
16 April 2026

Episode 324: Who Bears the Emotional Labor and Mental Load for Sex?

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Who's carrying the mental and emotional load when it comes to sex? Today Keith and I are breaking down all the ways evangelical marriage culture places that burden almost entirely on women: from appearance standards and contraception to performing passion on demand and suppressing her own emotions so his experience stays comfortable. We are listening to sermon clips and reading quotes from bestselling Christian marriage books that are pretty hard to hear, but really important to call out for the harm they cause to women (and marriage).

We are also talking about what we all actually want — a sex life rooted in real intimacy, where both people get to show up with everything they are.


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    The Orgasm Course and The Husband’s EditionStarter Pack Podcasts on Making Sex Feel Great


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